Monday, April 6, 2020

Dealing With Long-Distance Loss

Long-distance loss is a weird thing. Your heart and mind are in a different part of the world, wishing you could hug your people, comfort them, and have closure, but your body is stuck 9400 miles away, going about its routine.

I wish I could have brought #myswirlgirl to meet you. I wish I could have grown up “going to grandmas” like many of my American friends did instead of the every 2-year international flight.

My avva (grandma in our language) was one heck of a woman. She was financially independent by 19, worked in a field mostly made up of men (P.E. Teacher), married a man who treated her like the queen she was, had two children, four grandchildren, & one great-grandchild.

She never sugarcoated anything, never used flattery to get her anywhere, and had lifelong friends. She was stylish, a fantastic dancer, ambitious, and fiercely loving. Can you tell she was a role-model for me?

Every time I went to India, she was the first one I’d see, sitting in a chair by the doorway, putting both of her hands on either side of my face, giving me a big, warm smile.

Long-distance loss is a pain I’ll never get used to. We miss you avva. ❤️

Here are some of my favorite grandmother quotes below:

“Grandmother: A wonderful mother with lots of practice.”

“Grandmothers always have time to talk and make you feel special.”

“As I learned from growing up, you don’t mess with your grandmother.”

“There are grandmothers out there who would move heaven and earth for their grandchildren.”

“A grandmother is a little bit parent, a little bit teacher, and a little bit best friend.”


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