What is love? Love is assuming the best in each other.
I’ve noticed that the closer (relational, not proximity) we are to someone,
the fewer defenses we have raised.
We are less formal.
We get straight to the point.
But while those characteristics are wonderful,
we can take that person for granted.
We can assume they will never fail us and that they can read our minds.
Forgiveness can feel impossible.
One of my friends recently asked me how I don’t get offended (as easily) anymore.
I didn’t have an answer for her then, but as I kept thinking about it, I do now.
I think the answer is that when you know someone’s heart well, their intentions are clearer.
When you have perfectionist expectations for imperfect people, it only hurts you.
We all fall short of perfection, that’s a known truth.
And we all will fail each other, that’s an experienced truth.
But most of the time, people who strongly care about us, aren’t doing “x” to hurt, exclude, or be petty.
If something really bothers you, just ask!
If you can’t get around to asking, maybe they’re not that close to you.
So many conflicts wouldn’t even have room to breathe if we just communicated with one another.
Otherwise, assume the best.